Sunday, October 31, 2010
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Let’s talk babies... Please! I was going to make this my third installment of “What to say to an infertile” but this can be a touchy subject. I think I should just speak for myself on this issue.
I don’t want any of my friends or relatives to feel awkward about telling me their wonderful news. I know that most of you are normal and when you decide to start a family, it happens. It doesn’t upset me or make me sad... it actually makes me happy! Yes it does cause that little green monster (jealousy) to creep out but I keep him in check. The most important part is that I wouldn’t wish infertility on anybody so it’s a blessing to hear pregnancy news.
The only time it hurts is if you’re upset about being pregnant. DO NOT call to tell me how you can’t afford, can’t handle, or don’t have time for a child. These are not appropriate comments to make to any infertile (I will speak for us all here). Imagine the one thing you want most in the world... you would drop to your knees in tears of joy if you got this one thing. You would give up everything you own for this one thing... Maybe it’s to find the love of your life, win the lottery, or have one more day with a lost loved one. Do you have your most desired object/feeling/gift in mind?? Now imagine that I call to tell you that I have this object/feeling/gift and I don’t want it. I wish I could give it to you but it’s non-transferrable. Darn the luck.
Oddly, I have had several people say these things to me. (If you’re one of them don’t worry... I forgave you long ago.) Maybe it’s because I am so open about babies that I pop into their heads. I don’t know. Just try not to call me if you’re upset... anybody else but me. Call me when you’re ready to burst with joy!
To sum it up: As more and more of my friends settle down and start planning families, I expect many opportunities to perfect my “you’re pregnant” squeal! Just don’t call me until you’re ready to be happy about it!
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Jess got me watching the G&B show last season when the couple was struggling with infertility. When they left last season they were debating about trying IVF. This season started with her going ahead with that plan. It is so weird to actually see another person going through the same procedure that I went through. I’ve talked with a few people about it by email or blogs but that isn’t a complete depiction of the story. I was very impressed with the couple and how much they actually let the cameras into their lives. If you don’t watch the show... She did end up getting pregnant but in last night’s episode she miscarried at 8 weeks. So sad. Now they’re struggling with the next step. Where do we go from here? It’s like seeing my life on TV! It felt so surreal to watch her go through all of the emotions and be able to relate to every single one. Last night was almost like a gift. I got to look inside another person’s life who is struggling just like me. It made me feel a little more human and not so much like a failure.
Many thanks to G&B for sharing!
Speaking of Jess... I got to pick up Emma from daycare today and keep her for a little while! So exciting! She doesn't care for Lexi so I had to hold her most of the time. But that was ok with me!
Monday, October 25, 2010
Stacey, Heather and Kelli dancing and singing while Alabama was rolling over Tennessee!
The girls trying to fix the TV that Heather knocked over.
Stacey and I are the undisputed champions of pong!
I'm not sure what got Heather so tickled here but it was apparently side splitting!
Stacey made a tasty champagne drink to toast the Tide's victory. I love how Kelly is hamming it up in the background.
The festive and delicious strawberries that Kelli made.
I'm so glad I have these girls in my life. They are so much fun and always keep me amused. My mom and I recently had a conversation about how happy she is that I have so many great girlfriends. I concur.
John and Tristan had a good time this weekend too. They won four out of her five softball games! And they barely lost that one. Go Tristan! Then the Hubs won his soccer game last night. The Z household had a pretty good weekend! Hope you did too!
Sunday, October 24, 2010
A group photo in the lobby before going to class. Gloria's sister made us all matching tank tops that said "G-Crew". They are too cute!
A group photo in the class room.
This is about the only thing I could master. Walking around the pole!
The bachelorette showing her skills! We made her wear some lacy panties over her shorts. She was such a good sport!
So I had two fun "girls weekends" in a row. I had so much fun with G-slo (aka Gloria) and all of my girls last weekend and this weekend was a slumber party for Heather's birthday. I have some GREAT pictures from last night so I'll try to post them tomorrow. Anticipation...
Friday, October 22, 2010
I'm not sure what's on the agenda for tonight but I know the Hubs and I are looking forward to some quality time. We have barely seen each other all week! Last weekend I was gone to Atlanta, Wednesday he had his weekly date with Tristan and last night I had Supper Club with the girls. AND - He's leaving tomorrow morning to go to Atlanta for Tristan's softball tournament. I won't see him again until late Sunday night. Poor me!
I'm really excited about the football party tomorrow at Heather's (one of the Supper Club girls). I'll try to take some pictures because it should be an eventful day. Hopefully Alabama will win so our evening won't end on a sour note! Roll Tide!!!
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
I hope you got a good chuckle. The Hubs certainly did! Look at those huge thighs and those tiny ankles!! It's all about the outfit though. Here's what they look like when I throw on my new boots and a flowy sweater.
Now isn't that better!
Monday, October 18, 2010
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Unfortunately, I forgot the battery to my camera so I don't have any pictures. Thank goodness Jess was the responsible one and came prepared. I'll post some pictures as soon as she gets them to me.
Thursday, October 14, 2010
First I want to give credit where credit is due:
Agave Grill (Hoover, AL) - I met a few of the Supper Club girls for dinner Tuesday night at Agave. If you haven't been there they have the best Table Side Guacamole! It is delicious! They bring out two avocados and all of the fixins and then make it right in front of you. You KNOW it's fresh! It is the best guacamole in town. I liked everything I tried except the mango margarita. Stick with the classic top shelf!
Sapphire Nails (Also Hoover, AL) - A while ago I mentioned that I have had terrible luck with pedicures in Birmingham. I finally found someone who was awesome! That says A LOT coming from me! Not only that but the place itself is very spa like and relaxing. You better believe I asked for her name - Nina.
I had lunch with my immediate boss and one of the partners today... The Head Hancho, The Top Dog, The Big Kahuna... you get the point. He wanted to make sure I was happy which made me feel pretty darn good. He was quite complimentary too, which is always nice to hear from the man in charge. He also told us some pretty remarkable stories. One about how he played a key role in helping one of his clients find Jesus the day before he died. Literally, the man died the next day!
Finally I would like to end with my weekend plans! Jess, LL, Rhonda and I are headed to Atlanta for Gloria's bachelorette party this weekend. We are so excited for this little girls' trip! We'll arrive late tomorrow night, then have a pole dancing class on Saturday and party it up Saturday night. Sounds fun!! I just hope the Hubs isn't pining away at home for me... Don't worry! He'll have lots of softball and soccer to keep him busy.
One more thing: Tristan came over last night for a little while! This is a major step for her! John has been giving her some space and not making her come over on his weekends so she hasn't been here in months. I really hope this is the beginning of her spending a little more time with her dear ole' dad!
Isn't it amazing that I post almost every day but there's still so much I don't have time to say?? I'm glad I got to catch you up in this hodge podge post! I'll be back Sunday with lots of pictures and stories! Have a great weekend and ROLL TIDE!!
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
She said we can forgo the surgery and go straight into a few injectable cycles. It's up to us. She just doesn't want us to be upset if 3 or 4 cycles don't work, we have to do the surgery and we realize that was the problem. So I guess we're leaning toward the surgery first. We're not doing anything right away though. I'll have to get on John's insurance since mine doesn't pay a dime of any of this. His insurance will activate in January so we're going to take it easy until the beginning of the year. I'm sure I need a little more time to heal anyway.
Now for the bad news... the reason she doesn't recommend another IVF. She said I obviously have an egg quality issue. Two viable embryos for an IVF cycle is not good. To recap I had 10 eggs retrieved, only 5 were mature, 4 fertilized and only two were good enough to transfer. She said it was good news that one or both tried to implant but not good news that they arrested. So she also wants to order some more blood work... Yay me!
So that's about it. Some good news... some bad news... some inconclusive news... about what I expected. I am glad to have a plan though. Next year we start again. Not another IVF but maybe a surgery and a few injectable cycles.
Monday, October 11, 2010
Check back tomorrow night and maybe I'll have a little more insight!
Sunday, October 10, 2010
Alfredo Lasagna - Sweet Niblets this is delicious!! Thanks for the recipe Kelly P!
4 ounces Cream Cheese, softened
1 cup broccoli tops, chopped
1 1/4 cup shredded low-moisture Mozzarella Cheese, divided
1/4 cup grated Parmesan Cheese
1 tbsp sour cream
1 Chicken Breast, shredded
6 lasagna noodles
1 jar Classico Alfredo Sauce (I don't know how to make the trademark symbol but this is a name brand)
Heat oven to 375 degrees F. Mix cream cheese, broccoli, 1 cup mozzarella, cooked chicken breast, sour cream and parmesan until well blended. Microwave 1 min and mix again thoroughly. Spread the mixture over each of the noodles. Roll each noodle tightly and place seam side down in a baking dish. Top with the sauce and remaining mozzarella. Bake 30min or until bubbly.
Easy and DELICIOUS!! Kelly made this and a tomato sauce version (replace the broccoli with spinach and alfredo sauce with marinara) at our last Supper Club. They were so good that I got the recipe. Since John is off Monday and Tuesday and I'm not... he decided to cook me dinner tonight so I requested this. It was just as fabulous! Enjoy!
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Friday, October 8, 2010
Bella Update: John received an email from Bella's adoptive parents yesterday. They said that she is the best thing that's happened to them in a long time. They decided to cancel their flights to Miami on the 12th and are going to drive instead so she can go with them. John was a little relieved. He had a hard time giving her up after only having her 4 days. He was worried about how hard it would be to give her up after a week!
This weekend Tristan has a two day softball tournament. John's going for both days but I have tons of stuff to do around the house so I'm only going Sunday. Plus... I have to watch Alabama roll over South Carolina at 2:30!! Roll Tide!!
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Monday, October 4, 2010
We're planning to come up for Spring Break so it's not a big deal if you can't make it. We just wanted you to know that you're always welcome here!
Sunday, October 3, 2010
Tristan also had her final volleyball tournament yesterday. The team didn't do so well but she had a heck of a day. Here are some pictures:
She's on the left holding hands with her teammate. After the serve they switch sides.
Tristan serving. She is one of the best servers.
John was being a fabulous Dad by volunteering as line judge. I hope Tristan realizes how lucky she is to have such an involved father.
I think she does!!! Isn't this a sweet picture of her cuddling her daddy between games. Funny story: John went to sit beside her just to embarrass her. He was playing with her hair and hugging her. Then one of her friends said, "What are you complaining about? At least your dad is cool! My dad is bald!!" That made John's day! And I think Tristan realized how cool her dad is.
As you can see, the pictures still didn't turn out the greatest. Since I was the photographer this time I'm blaming the camera. We've already decided that we'll be out bright and early the day after Thanksgiving to get a new, fancy camera. We've been talking about getting a really nice camera since we got married but we kept putting it off until we had a baby. Well.... I'm tired of putting things off waiting for a baby. It makes me feel like my life is perpetually on hold for a baby that may never happen. No more of that... we're living our lives! Don't get me wrong, we're still hoping and praying for a child. We're just not going to put so much pressure on ourselves by revolving our lives around it.